A Life of Wonder

Stare at a spot on the floor to gain balance. Listen to your breath to find composure. Navigate with the stars to find your way through the dark ocean. Trust in nature, not in memory, or elusive thoughts. Trust in ritual. 

Even in the darkest nights, filled with clouds, sailors found their way home. 

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Is your mind tricking you again? Are you reliving distressful times, hurtful words, potential catastrophic events which haven’t taken place yet and you’re suffering in advance? Does it feel like you’re caught in a loop of worry and concern? Have you tried therapy, mindfulness, working out, eating right, and prayer, and it’s still not cutting it. Then you need MindFree. For 3 payments of $250 dollars, Mindfree is a clinical proven way to enjoy every moment without getting trapped in the past or confused by imaginary futures. It’s a blue pill that takes 45 seconds to work, is 100% legal, and only available by invitation only. Sound too good to be true? The science is complex, and the implications are vast. If you’re interested, we’re invite you, and only you, to learn more. Why you? Why not. 

Until this product actually exists, we’ll have to do the hard work of discerning what the mind creates from what the body experiences and how to be present with what’s unfolding in the moment rather than what might unfold, or what already has. Until Mindfree is available at Walgreens near you, it’s on us to be present and to complete the work of discernment with rituals and instincts to guide our way home.

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Doing is relatively easy. You take action. You practice. You get better. You make decisions. You move forward. You fail. You thrive. Ultimately, you’re driving.

“Being” is considerably more challenging. Waiting for results you have no control over. Sitting with feelings. Contemplating. Ruminating. Exploring the unknowing. Paying attention to breath, to surroundings, to life without having any power over it, this is considerably more challenging (for me) .

Can we get better at being? Can we do so through practice? How does the practice of “being” differ from the practice of “doing?”

I want to sit with this question. 

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Today I invited a small group of people I trust to tell a story. That was it. You have about 3 minutes. Go. No rules. No limits. When each had taken their turn, I asked about their experience of being listened to and their experience of sharing. Some expressed a wish to be more vulnerable, while others yearned to improve their story telling skills, and several felt held and heard by the community. What interested me most wasn’t the content of the stories per se, but why the selected the ones they selected. With a lifetime of memories available to you, how did you decide what to select: the most dramatic, the most impactful, the funniest, the one which portrays you in a positive light?

It’s the selection of the content I find most fascinating. I told the story of my first consulting experience and the car ride from hell. It was memorable for me and captured that feeling of wanting to impress while facing potential embarrassment. Maybe I’ll share it with you sometime.

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I remember reading The Brothers Karamazov in college. The thick, beautiful, never ending book which refused to be skimmed. Reading it was an act of slowing down, and yet because of the circumstances: pressure from school work and social obligations, I had to read quickly. As my eyes read the words, my heart was saving them to process for a later date. As if I were a bear feeding off that book to keep me fat and happy through the winter, I ear marked, underlined, and adored passages. I’ve forgotten the many of the plot details, but still remember wrestling with the questions it posed, and the desire to both finish it fast and to linger within its pages. It sits on my shelf now inviting a re-reading. Which books do this for you?

“Above all, don’t lie to yourself. The man who lies to himself and listens to his own lie comes to a point that he cannot distinguish the truth within him, or around him, and so loses all respect for himself and for others. And having no respect he ceases to love.”
― Fyodor Dostoevsky, The Brothers Karamazov

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We all know the Mike Tyson quote, “Everyone has a plan until they get punched in the mouth.” Of course this means that you don’t really know how you’re going to react until you’re facing a problem.. It’s easy to assume that the quote means that your plans will fall apart in the face of adversity. However, that’s not just it. There’s hidden wisdom in the quote.

A better way of looking at it is you don’t know how you will react until you face the problem itself. Imaging outcomes can be helpful, but also deeply misleading, or lead to obsessive contemplation of options. It’s especially tricky if you’re inclined towards unbridled optimism or worst case scenario thinking. 

Far better to reflect on that fact that you don’t have an ability to predict future outcomes and the best you can do is to cultivate strength from handling past situations in which you overcame uncertainty and adversity. 

Perhaps a mantra of, “whatever comes up, I’ll find a way” is a healthy way to be. What are your thoughts? 

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A metaphor is a frame. The right one changes how you see yourself and the world. When you can’t express yourself directly, aim for a metaphor, even if you don’t understand why you selected what you select.

Unravel it when you have a clear head. Look into it to find insight that transcends simple language.

The best metaphors are still lakes. 

“If you can look into the seeds of time, and say which grain will grow and which will not, speak then to me.” —Macbeth, William Shakespeare

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The thing about hope is you have to accept it when it’s offered to you. It’s a fragile thing, hope, and it needs to be cultivated with care. It’s dismissed easily. If you aren’t careful, you can crush it like an absent minded hiker stepping on a blooming flower. Accept hope as a gift to be cherished and not argument to be cross examined. Let it heal you and invite you to somewhere where possibilities thrive.

Hope is a form of intentional imagination.

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Control what you can, let go of what you cannot.

Sounds easy but the practice takes work.

I wonder if we get better at it as we age, or if there’s a practice for it.

Some people are wired differently. ‘Letting go’ comes to them with greater ease. And others ruminate and turn over their thoughts as if they were a rubric cube to be solved.

For those people who easily accept what is presented to them and experience less stress or concern, I want to know how they became that way. Is there a practice, an experience, an idea that gave them the grace and insight to be free of rumination.

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Is there a thought or image which continues to surface for you. I have two. The first is a still lake surrounded by fireflies. The serenity of the scene brings me peace and intrigue. The mix of fire, water, nature, and light puts my mind at ease.

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